How to Comfort Someone Before Their Open Heart Surgery

Posted by Heart Hugger on Aug 25, 2019 9:28:00 AM

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Surgery can be a scary thing. If you're the friend, close relative or even nurse of someone about to go in for surgery, how do you comfort and reassure them?

Encouraging Words for Surgery Patients

Comforting words before surgery can go a long way. We might think that default cliches like "it'll be okay" are overused or unnecessary, but the truth is they can be welcome.

Put yourself in the place of your friend or relative. They're nervous, trying not to think about it, but still trying to prepare. Simple reminders from you can help them remember to repeat those things to themselves. 

However, sometimes it's helpful to comfort them with a bit more substance. 

They might like to hear these positive words before surgery:

Even though these words are what we probably already want to say, here are some explanations about why they are helpful, too. 

"How can I help?"

This shows them that you care and want to be there for them. And, the time surrounding surgery can be full of many to-dos (like picking up prescriptions or planning meals), so an offer to help can be a blessing. 

"What are you feeling right now?" 

Permission to talk about any concerns or fears is amazing! Lots of people who are about to undergo surgery feel like they need to keep their fears inside. Letting them speak about anything on their mind can go a long way in providing comfort. 

"It'll be okay." 

It may feel silly, but sometimes that's all someone needs to hear. Grab their hand, look them in the eye, and say it. Remind them good health is in the future. 

"I'll be waiting for you after surgery!"

Remind them that you'll be there for them immediately following the procedure. This can also help them shift their thinking to after the surgery, instead of stewing on the surgery itself. 

"Can I give you a hug?"

A simple hug can go a long way in offering comfort. Asking permission is absolutely fine, especially if you're worried you might hurt them. 

"I Love You"

Don't forget to let them know how much you love them before they go in for surgery!

What Not to Say to Someone Before Surgery

Being genuine and offering comfort in the best way you can is never a bad idea. There's really only one thing we suggest not saying. 

Don't say "I know how you feel" and go into a story about that one time you broke your arm and had to have it reset. That isn't comforting, and it sends the person you're supposed to be comforting back into their thoughts and worries. Focus on their future, not your past.

Encouraging words for patients and a supportive attitude can go miles, and it'll set the stage for how to help out once the surgery is over and the recovery process starts. 

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